On June 6, 2023, the Founder of Goddess Glow and the creator of the Find Your Glow framework was interviewed live on Instagram about her experience as a single mom and why she started coaching single moms through their own mindset glow-ups. This is a transcript of that conversation.

Question: Can you tell us about your mindset and empowerment coaching services? 

Answer: I'd be happy to! A few months ago, I enrolled in a "coaching for coaches" program because I was searching for a career path that felt more fulfilling than my former HOA management job. That program helped me develop my proprietary mindset and empowerment coaching method, which I call the Find Your Glow Framework. While the framework can technically help anyone feel more confident and empowered, my ideal clients are single moms who feel insecure about themselves and their place in the dating world now that they're solo or co-parenting. Women who are strong, capable, and resilient but have difficulty recognizing their worth. My programs are designed to help single moms who crave the loving companionship and support of a committed relationship but always seem to attract partners who aren't ready or willing to take on the role of a step-parent. I help my clients move past the hidden blocks keeping them from having the loving, healthy, supportive relationship that lasts that they deserve, like I finally learned how to do just before I met the man who is now my husband.  

Question: What inspired you to create a coaching program catered to single moms? 

Answer: I have two coaching programs; one is a 12-week program that combines group and 1:1 coaching, and the other is strictly 1:1 coaching. I was a single mom for almost two decades, and it's the most challenging role I've ever had. So I wanted to help other women in that position transform from feeling insecure, anxious, depressed, and like they're barely surviving to a confident goddess that glows from the inside out, is sure of her worth, and is thriving instead of just surviving. 

Question: How do your one-on-one and group program options cater to single moms' unique needs and challenges? 

Answer: Many single moms carry subconscious guilt and shame about not having a "normal" family. Even when they look confident on the outside, inside, they worry that they're too damaged or used to be loved. At least that was my experience, and many of my single mom friends say they relate. Knowing that, I designed the two programs to facilitate the release of that guilt and shame and any other limiting beliefs or negative self-talk that is getting in the way of glowing. We practice self-forgiveness, boundary setting, and reconnecting with the places, people, and things that light you up inside. And, with the Goddess Glow Love Academy 12-week program, you are guided through a practical magic manifestation ritual to help you attract your perfect partner once you've found and nourished your inner goddess glow. You also have access to a community of single moms that can relate to and encourage you when single or co-parenting gets hard.

Question: What are some mindset blocks or limiting beliefs that single moms tend to face, and how does your coaching help them overcome these barriers? 

Answer: Everyone comes from different backgrounds and upbringings, so the mindset blocks and limiting beliefs that get in the way of feeling like a self-assured glowing goddess can vary. But some common ones that I've come across so far are feeling like no one could love you with all your damage or baggage, blaming yourself for being "too much" or "not good enough" when someone chooses not to pursue a relationship with you, accepting less than you deserve in relationships because you feel desperate not to be alone, and falling into people pleasing patterns where you try to become who another person wants you to be instead of being your authentic self.

Whether the Goddess Glow Love Academy or 1:1 coaching, I help my clients identify the blocks getting in the way and then work with them to retrain the brain so they are released and new, supportive thought patterns and beliefs take their place. All lasting change starts in the subconscious, so if you want something to change, the first step is changing your subconscious thoughts or beliefs. Once you do that, everything else falls into place.

Question: Can you share a success story of a single mom who has transformed her life through your coaching program?

Answer: My most remarkable success story is mine, as my clients are still beginning their journeys. However, I will have more transformation stories to tell soon. For now, though, I will tell you my story.

Dee's Story: How Goddess Glow Mindset Coaching for Single Moms Was Born

As I said before, I was a single mom for almost two decades. The father of my two daughters was a raging alcoholic, so when my daughters were about 5 and 2 1/2, I chose to leave to minimize the damage his drinking caused the girls. I've always known it was the right choice. I also carried guilt and shame in my heart over the failure of that relationship for far too long. I subconsciously saw myself as ruined, damaged, used, abused, broken, dirty, and unworthy. I figured that no one worth a shit would love a hot mess like me. But, I was also desperate for companionship and support, so I bounced from unhealthy, unsatisfying relationship to relationship, always wondering how other people managed to find love, but I never did.

Selfie of me in 2016, pretending to be confident and self-assured but feeling damaged and ruined inside.

Finally, after way too many years and yet another broken heart at almost 40 years old, I realized that my failure to love myself and see myself as worthy was causing my relationship problems and misery. That was a painful realization that I had been self-sabotaging my happiness for so long because I didn't think I deserved it. 

I got serious about doing the inner shadow and mindset work to empower myself to let go of those subconscious beliefs and instead believe that I was inherently worthy of love and, in fact, a catch. I set my relationship standards high, and I refused to even dabble in a relationship that was not up to par. I created the practical magic manifestation ritual that I now guide clients through at the end of the 12-week program to show the universe precisely what I wanted and needed in a partner.

A couple of months later, my now-husband and I went from chatting online about the horrors of dating to going on our first date. A couple of months after that, we were figuring out how to make a long-distance relationship work, and in less than a year, we were engaged. Today, we've been married for almost three years.

Picture of Luke and I on our wedding day, surrounded by all of our kids.

My finances, career, home, and friendships also leveled up, along with my mindset. But none of that would've happened without me doing the work to release the subconscious blocks causing me to self-sabotage. It wouldn't have worked if we had gone on our first date with those limiting beliefs still firmly in place. Eventually, he would've seen me the way I used to see me, not quite good enough. 

Luke coming into my life was a blessing, but he wasn't a knight in shining armor who saved me. I saved myself, and that's what attracted him to me.

Question: How is your coaching approach different from other self-help resources or general coaching services? 

Answer: My coaching approach is different in that it is more inwardly focused. It's not about creating external lifestyle changes, habits, or results, although those things may happen due to inner work. I'm not going to tell you to change your diet, drink a gallon of water, complete complicated skin-care routines, and exercise every day, although those are good habits to have.

Instead, we focus on rewiring the subconscious mind so that limiting beliefs you developed or inherited no longer get in your way. This is the way to real, lasting change in any area of your life. This is how you feel comfortable in your skin, learn to listen to the voice of your inner goddess, and glow so brightly that others can't help but be attracted to you and your energy.

Question: What kind of support and community can single moms expect when joining your group program?

Answer: Who better to support single moms than a circle of current and former single moms? That's why the Goddess Glow Love Academy includes six group sessions and an online community of single moms who are all finding and nurturing their inner glow. It's an online community of women supporting women, where gossip, exclusion, and "mean-girling" is forbidden. In the Goddess Glow circle, we rise by lifting each other up. 

Also, in the next year or two, I plan to host an annual Goddess Glow weekend retreat where members can connect, bond, and grow in person while trying out various healing practices and modalities to support nurturing that inner glow. This will further the sense of community and provide a much-needed wellness break for the moms that can arrange childcare. 

Question: Speaking of wellness breaks, how do you help single moms strike the right balance between self-care, personal growth, and their responsibilities as a parent?

Answer: Whoo, that's a hard one. As I said earlier, being a single parent is the most challenging role one can have. With so many hats to wear, there is no easy answer to balancing them all. 

All women, especially single moms, put unreasonable expectations on themselves. We beat ourselves up for not having spotless, aesthetically pleasing houses and happy, well-adjusted children at all times, even though we work ridiculous hours to pay the bills because, in many cities, it takes two incomes to survive. We are burdened with guilt over dissociating while the kids talked about their day and now can't remember a word they said, even though that's a normal response for someone existing in chronic fight or flight mode. We put everyone's needs before our own, which is precisely the opposite of what we need to do.

I'm not encouraging self-centered or narcissistic behavior, especially in parents. But, on an airplane, when oxygen masks are necessary, they tell you to put your mask on FIRST before helping anyone else with theirs. Why? Because you cannot help anyone else if you're passed out from lack of oxygen. You have to take care of yourself to be able to assist others.

Think of it another way. Imagine you're a server at a fancy dinner party, and your job is to keep everyone's cups full of water all evening long. How long can you keep filling cups if you don't take the time to refill your pitcher? Not long, right? That's because you cannot pour from an empty pitcher, no matter how much you might want to. You must make time for refills.

Single moms often perceive self-care as something selfish or that nobody has time for. The fact is, it's an absolute necessity, and you will crash and burn as a single parent if you don't learn how to make time for rest and self-care. But you also can't afford to waste time on so-called self-care activities that don't fill your cup. So, one of the mindsets we work on reframing with the Find Your Glow framework is the mindset around self-care. I also help my clients differentiate authentic self-care practices that benefit them from bandaid fixes that drain them more than fill them up. This helps them find and nurture that inner goddess glow to feel empowered and comfortable in their skin.

Question: How can single moms benefit from embracing an empowered mindset in the long run?

Answer: My programs focus on transforming your relationship with yourself and your romantic relationships but feeling empowered and confident has limitless benefits. Empowering yourself levels up every aspect of your life. It improves your self-esteem and sense of self-worth, your career and finances, your level of success, and even how satisfied and fulfilled you feel. It helps you to face and overcome the challenges that life inevitably brings with courage and grace. And, of course, it impacts your relationships with co-workers, kids, friends, family, and romantic partners. 

Question: What steps can single moms take today to start their journey towards a more empowered and fulfilling life? 

Answer: First, realize it's not your fault if you think you have limiting beliefs or have lost your inner glow. Honestly, it would be unusual if you didn't in this consumerist society that constantly bombards you with messages that you're not enough. So, if you think you need to work on your relationship with yourself, you're not alone, and there's nothing wrong with you. Feeling insecure or unworthy doesn't make you anything but human. 

Second, recognize that words, whether spoken or unspoken, have power. What you think or say about yourself becomes your reality. So, eliminate the phrases "I hope," "I can't," and "I need" from your vocabulary. And, when you catch yourself saying or thinking something negative or limiting, immediately correct it. It's better to say something uplifting that you're not sure you believe, maybe employing sarcasm, than to accept, and therefore reaffirm, the limiting statement.

For example, instead of saying, "I am so dumb," when you make a mistake, try reframing it to a sarcastic "I'm so smart." The difference seems nominal to the conscious mind, but the unconscious mind does not understand sarcasm. So, every time it hears "I'm so smart," it wires that belief into your brain. Over time, the "I'm so dumb" neural pathway in the brain grows over, and the new "I'm so smart" becomes the default thought. 

Third, you can find and release subconscious blocks and limiting beliefs much faster with coaching than going it alone. My resistance to getting help with my subconscious blocks and my insistence on doing it alone slowed down my progress. Inner shadow work is a lot easier when someone guides you through it and holds your hand while you walk through the dark places in your past.

So, whether it's my program or another coach's program, find someone who will walk you through the work so you don't have to do it alone. 

Question: How can any single moms reading this sign up for your programs or learn more about the services you offer?

Answer: If you're a single mom that relates to my story and wants to reconnect with and step into your inner power, click here for a link to schedule a no-cost and no-obligation quick consult call with me. If it seems like a good fit after that call, I'll provide a complimentary trial session so you can start to identify what subconscious blocks are in your way of having the love, and life, you deserve and experience the transformative power of mindset glow-up coaching for yourself.

If you're curious but not quite ready for a consult call, you can follow me on Instagram, subscribe to my weekly email newsletter, or read some more of my blog posts:

• The Power of Self-Esteem, Self-Worth, and Self-Respect for Single Moms
• Breaking Free: Letting Go to Create a Brighter Future

• Crack the Confidence Code: Empowering Single Moms to Embrace Their True Potential

• Fear vs. Purpose: Making Your Why Stronger as a Single Mom

• The One Thing Holding You Back From Love