Imagine a world where single moms crack the confidence code to unleash their inner power, conquer their fears, and step boldly into their greatness. A world where they are not defined by their circumstances but by their strength, resilience, and unwavering determination to thrive.

In this week’s blog post, we will explore how you can break free from limiting beliefs, build a supportive network, nurture your self-care and well-being, and learn to love what makes you uniquely you. Along the way, we will discover the transformative power of coaching and how it empowers single moms like you to change their self-perception. Get ready to crack the confidence code and unlock your true potential. It's time to rewrite your story.

And it all starts with...

Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs

One of the biggest hurdles single moms, and everyone else, face when trying to crack the confidence code is the presence of limiting beliefs. These beliefs, often ingrained in the society or culture you grew up in or formed through past experiences, can hold you back from fully recognizing your capabilities and pursuing your dreams. You must break free from these self-imposed limitations and replace them with new, more empowering beliefs and stories. The problem is that most of our limiting beliefs are so deeply ingrained that we are unaware of them. So, if we don't even know what our limiting beliefs are, how do we unpack them?

Self-reflection plays a critical role in this process. You need to take the time to identify the limiting beliefs holding you back. What events cause strong emotional or physical reactions to resurface? What triggers you? How does your body feel when you're triggered, and when have you felt this way before? Asking yourself these questions can help you identify events that created the limiting beliefs or stories you tell yourself today.

These beliefs may include thoughts such as "I'm not good enough," "I don't have what it takes," or "No decent person wants to commit to someone like me." By acknowledging and challenging these beliefs, you can begin to replace them with empowering thoughts and affirmations that align with your true potential. Notice I said that you must acknowledge them to unpack them. You cannot unload a belief you are not yet aware of.

How I Learned to Crack the Confidence Code

Let me explain what I mean by telling you a story. I was raised in a strict religion that teaches that the only way to be with your family in the afterlife is to be pure in body and mind. It preaches that unless you have been ritually sealed in a sacred ceremony that only the "worthy" have access to, you are destined to spend eternity alone and suffering. That church has a narrow viewpoint on what an acceptable marriage and family look like.

Being born a free spirit that marches to the beat of my own drum and not anyone else's, I never really felt like I belonged and left the church as soon as I moved out of my parent's house at 18. I ended up falling in love with a boy and having two babies with him despite never being married. On a conscious level, I felt good about the little family we created. But on a subconscious level, I had a story playing in my mind: because we were not married, our family was "less than," and an even deeper story told me that it was because I was not pure and worthy of a healthy relationship. After all, I had pre-marital sex and got pregnant at 16. In my subconscious mind, I'd been ruined ever since.

When our youngest was 2 1/2 years old, I realized that my partner's drinking problem was something I could not live with and that our relationship dynamic was not what I wanted as an example of what was acceptable for our daughters. I packed up my stuff and left. On the surface, it seemed like I was sure of myself. People praised my strength, bravery, and resilience.

But inside, I felt dirty, used, and broken. I dated a string of people with avoidant attachment styles, commitment issues, people that didn't want step-kids, people that were only in it for the sex, and people that told me repeatedly how I was "not good enough" for them. The cycle of loneliness, toxic relationship, heartbreak, and loneliness reiterated to me over and over how dirty, un-pure, and not good enough I was. I was almost 40, had never been married, and had three kids with two different dads. Who could love a mess like me?

After yet another dude with several red flags of his own that I was overlooking told me after a couple of months of talking and several dates that he didn't want a relationship with me but "we could still hook up," I flipped out on him over text. I accused him of saying I wasn't worthy of seriously dating when I was more than good enough. He responded that he had never commented on my worth, only on what he wanted or didn't want at this time.

That response opened my eyes. The dude was right; he never said I wasn't worthy. I said that. It was like a part of me left my body and could see the timeline of all my bad relationship choices. I saw for the first time the connection between the limiting belief that I was unworthy and the "broken picker" that I blamed my romantic failures on. My "picker" was only broken because I didn't believe I was worth better.

So, I went to work, and I taught myself how to rewire my brain to release the story that no one worth a shit would ever love me and replace it with the belief that I was indeed worthy of a healthy, supportive partner who loves me for me and wants to commit to me and my kids. That was four years ago, and in less than a month, I'll be celebrating my third wedding anniversary with the husband that my new story attracted to me.

Now, you may think that it's just a coincidence that I met my person after having my eyes opened by red-flag-dude. You may think that would've happened even if I never did the work to unpack and replace the story that I wasn't worthy of healthy, committed love. But the truth is, I met my husband a year before my eyes were opened. If we had gone on our first date before I unpacked my belief about my worth, we never would've had a second date. I would've self-sabotaged because my subconscious story told me that a guy like him would never fall for a girl like me, so I better break it off before I got hurt.

But because I'd already learned to crack the confidence code, when that thought popped into my mind, which it did, I could reframe it and allow myself to "just see what happens" without expectations.

How You Can Crack the Confidence Code, Too

It starts with challenging the negative thoughts and beliefs that may have become ingrained in your mind over time. Instead of dwelling on perceived inadequacies or past failures, work on shifting your focus to your strength, your passions, the traits that make you uniquely you, and the potential you possess to create positive change in your life. Because I promise you, you do have that power. You can rewrite your stories and create a life you don't need to escape from. By reframing your mindset and embracing a growth-oriented perspective, you can open yourself up to new and exciting possibilities in your love life and every other aspect of your life.

Coaching can be a powerful tool for breaking free from limiting beliefs. A skilled coach can guide you through the process of self-discovery, helping you uncover the root causes of your limiting beliefs and providing you with strategies to reframe your thoughts. Through personalized one-on-one and powerful group coaching sessions, you can develop a deeper understanding of your strengths, values, and aspirations, empowering you to rewrite your narratives and step into your power.

Breaking free from limiting beliefs can be challenging. It takes repetition, patience, and perseverance. Still, it is essential to recognize that you have the power to shape your own destiny. You cannot control where you started, but you can control where you end up. When you crack the confidence code and take bold steps toward personal growth, you can create a new narrative that celebrates your strengths and unlocks your true potential. It's time to let go of the limitations and embrace the limitless possibilities that lie ahead.

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Building a Supportive Network

In addition to personal growth and self-discovery, building a supportive network is crucial in empowering single moms to embrace their true potential. Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who understand single motherhood's unique challenges and triumphs can provide a sense of belonging and encouragement. A supportive network can offer a space for single moms to share their experiences, exchange advice, and offer emotional support. It shows you that you're not alone and that others have the same struggles, failures, and limiting belief stories as you do.

Connecting with other single moms who have started to crack the confidence code can be invaluable. By joining online communities like the free Goddess Glow Single Mom Support Group or in-person local support groups, you can find solace in the company of others walking similar paths. These networks allow you to form deep connections, exchange resources and offer mutual understanding and support. Whether through virtual conversations or in-person meetups, these connections can serve as a lifeline during challenging times and a source of inspiration during moments of doubt.

Moreover, finding mentors or a coach like me who has successfully navigated the journey can provide guidance and motivation. Coaches and mentors can offer practical advice, share their experiences, and empower you to believe in yourself. By witnessing others overcome obstacles and achieve their goals, you can gain the confidence to believe that you can pursue your aspirations and defy societal limitations. Coaching or mentoring offers insights, tools, and strategies to help you overcome obstacles, thrive, and find fulfillment in your personal and professional lives.

You can create a rich tapestry of resources, guidance, and encouragement by surrounding yourself with a supportive network of peers, mentors, and a coach. This network can become a collective force that propels you forward, reinforcing your confidence and reminding you of your worth. With the backing of such a support group, you can enter the next phase of your confidence journey: nurturing self-care and well-being.

Nurturing Self-Care and Well-Being

As you continue your journey to empowerment, it becomes crucial for you to prioritize self-care and well-being. As we've discussed, you cannot pour from an empty cup. Taking care of oneself is not selfish; it is essential to maintaining the strength and resilience required to embrace your true potential. Genuine self-care is not just slathering your skin with a soothing face mask. It involves carving out time for relaxation, indulging in activities that bring joy, setting boundaries to protect your peace, and tending to physical and emotional needs.

Authentic self-care can take many forms. It could be as simple as enjoying a quiet cup of coffee before the day begins or finding solace from a peaceful walk in nature. It might involve engaging in hobbies or pursuing passions that have long been set aside. Attending to physical health, such as regular exercise and nourishing meals, is equally important in nurturing overall well-being.

Recognizing the importance of self-care also means acknowledging and addressing emotional needs. Single moms often juggle multiple responsibilities, and it is easy to neglect your own feelings in the process. However, by seeking therapy and/or coaching, you can create an environment where you can openly express yourself, process your emotions, and gain valuable insights. Through this process, you can cultivate a strong sense of self-awareness and the ability to navigate challenges gracefully.

Nurturing self-care and well-being benefits you and positively impacts your children and your community. Demonstrating the importance of self-care teaches your children the value of self-love and prioritizing personal well-being. It sets a positive example for them to follow. This mindset shift can have a lasting impact on future generations, creating a ripple effect that extends far beyond individual households. Can you imagine a world where every child is taught to care for themselves so they can turn around and care for others? What a place that would be!

As single moms embrace self-care and well-being, we lay a solid foundation for the next phase of the confidence journey: loving what makes you unique. By nurturing your own happiness and fulfillment, you gain the clarity and perspective to embrace your true self and fully live your life. So, coming up next, we will explore how you can embrace your authenticity and celebrate the qualities that make you exceptional in your own right.

Loving What Makes You, You

As single moms embark on their journey of self-care and well-being, they not only prioritize their own happiness but also model a powerful lesson for their children. By nurturing their own well-being, single moms show their children the importance of self-love and personal fulfillment. In this space of self-acceptance and self-love, you discover the qualities and strengths that make you a catch.

Let's try a simple exercise to help you reconnect to the traits that make you the magnificent divine being you are: Take a moment to settle into a comfortable position and find stillness in the body. Focus on breathing slowly and exhaling fully. Feel the air enter through your nose, moving down the back of your throat as you inhale. Feel your diaphragm expand and contract with each breath. Notice if the air feels warm or cool as you exhale. Now, think back to your early childhood, before you were burdened with the expectations of others. Visualize your adult self, watching your child-self playing without a care in the world.

Who were you then? What made you happy? What activities could you spend hours doing without getting bored? What people, places, or things lit you up inside? What were you naturally good at? What dreams did you abandon because someone told you it was impractical or impossible? Who did little you want to be? What did you want your life to be like? How can you incorporate more of these things into your life now? How can you reconnect with your younger self and the dreams little you had? Listen and notice anything that comes up. And, if nothing comes up, that's okay too. Trust that the answers will come. Whatever you need to remember will surface when the time is right.

Now, picture your child-self and adult-self merging into one being. See that merged being returning to your body and settling in. Scan your body and notice how it feels. Do you feel different? Perhaps lighter? Fuller? You may notice a tingling sensation or a tightening or release somewhere in the body. Maybe you feel nothing at all. Whatever your experience, notice without judging.

Slowly, let movement return to your body. Gently wiggle your fingers and toes. Perhaps make circles with your wrists or ankles. If it feels good for you, lower your chin to your chest and stretch out the back of the neck.

Now, I invite you to grab a piece of paper and pen to write down anything that came up during that exercise that you want to remember. Take a few minutes to record your reflections before we move on to the next step to crack the confidence code.

How Coaching Empowers You to Change Your Self-Perception

Coaching is a valuable tool in this process, offering guidance and support to help you uncover your true potential and navigate the challenges you may face. Through coaching, you gain a fresh perspective on yourself and your abilities. You are encouraged and have your hand held as you challenge self-limiting beliefs and explore new possibilities. This enables you to develop a stronger sense of self and a more positive self-perception in a fraction of the time it takes to do the work alone and without an experienced guide. Think about it this way; you wouldn't take a wilderness trek through unfamiliar and potentially dangerous terrain without taking along a guide, would you? So why would you venture into the wilderness of the subconscious mind without one?

With the guidance of a coach, you can gain clarity on your goals and aspirations. You can better identify the areas where you want to grow and develop strategies to overcome challenges. Coaching provides a safe and supportive space for single moms like you to explore fears, doubts, and insecurities. It helps you build resilience and develop a growth mindset, empowering you to overcome obstacles and persevere.

As you embark on a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and embracing what makes you unique, you set the stage for a powerful transformation. And with the help of coaching, you can navigate this transformation with confidence and clarity, rewriting the narrative of what it means to be a single mom and empowering yourself to embrace your true potential.

Or you can stay stuck in your limiting beliefs. You can keep telling yourself subconscious stories like:

• "Why would anyone like me?"
• "I am too fat or out of shape for anyone to think I'm sexy."
• "My heart is too damaged to love again." 💔
• "No one finds me as interesting or as pretty as the other women out there."
• "I don't have anyone to watch my children while I try to date."
• "No one decent wants to date someone with so much baggage."
• "No one wants to stepparent my children."
• "I don't know how to talk to people."
• "People don't like me."
• "I have too many trust issues for a healthy relationship."
• "I'm damaged, so I only attract damaged men."
• "My picker is broken."
• "No one worth a sh*t is going to love a hot mess like me."

But what kind of future will those stories allow you to create? Is it a future you want for yourself and your children?

How would your life transform if you get help changing the channel in your head to something that empowers instead of limits you? What could you let go of? What could you invite in?

In a world where single moms often face unique challenges, coaches like me are here to empower and uplift you on your journey because we've walked that road and know the way. So, you can try and navigate the jungles of the mind alone, or you can rely on a trusted guide to help you stay on track.

By breaking free from limiting beliefs, you can shatter the chains that hold you back and step into your power. Joining a supportive network like the no-cost Goddess Glow Single Mom Support Group provides a lifeline of encouragement, understanding, and resources, reminding you that you are never alone. Practicing self-care and nurturing your well-being is not just a luxury but a necessity, as it replenishes your energy and fortifies your spirit. Loving what makes you uniquely you allows you to radiate authenticity and embrace your individuality. And through coaching, you can transform your self-perception, discovering newfound confidence and belief in your capabilities.

This newfound confidence is the energy that attracts people who love and accept you as you are, encouraging you to bloom and grow. It's what fixes your broken picker in relationships. It also helps you glow up every other area of your life.

As we wrap up this article, remember that the confidence revolution is not just a fleeting trend but a lifelong journey of self-discovery and growth. It is a call to action, urging single moms like you to take the necessary steps toward their true potential. Embrace the revolution today and join a community that empowers, uplifts, and celebrates the strength of single moms.

In the wise words of Maya Angelou, "You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it."

So, take that first step. Break free. Find your tribe. Prioritize your well-being. Embrace your uniqueness. And ignite the fire of confidence within you. The world is waiting for you to shine. It's time for you to glow, girl.

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And no matter who you are and where you are in life, thanks for taking the time to read this blog article. I see your support, and I honor you for it.

If you enjoyed this article, please consider reading my other pieces, like this one about the one thing holding you back from love or this one about how finding your “why” helps single moms like you move through fear.

The light that shines in me recognizes the light that shines in you. I hope to see your shining soul back here again next week! Until then, my friends!